When someone asks me questions or comments about my traveling (that includes men and women, both):

  • How do you travel ? Permission mil jati hai parents se aram se? , Kis k sath jati ho ? (Do your parent allow? , Whom do you travel with?).
  • How do you manage ? Chuttiyan mil jati hain? Paise kyu ura deti ho itne, bacha k rkho, age kam ayenge.( how do you get off from work ? (Why do you spend so much money? save it for your future).
  • Why do you like to go to every place ? Yahan kia hai khali sarken , mathi or pahar? koi achi jaga ho to samajh ata hai(What do you like in not-so-green places ?).
  • What about security ? Safe hai ? (is it Safe?).

That’s how I react with patience !

Sighhhhhhhhh!!

Unfolding!!

My precious people, I want all of you to know that traveling is not an outlandish even for a woman, it’s all about your passion and choices.Of course, there are risk associated with it but isn’t for everything in life? For example , a chef can catch a fire & die.Right ? ITS ALL ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IN YOUR LIFE. Telling this from my experience and so many other women around me.

Coming to the point, I would like to discuss different perspectives and how they affect others. Most importantly, why is it still so bizarre for women to travel & or even see other women traveling.

Perspective # 1

The first perspective is, a woman who wants to travel, she has so many hurdles, not talking about Pakistan only, I have read women’s concern about traveling in any part of the world about being safe & comfy and that’s okay.Everyone need to make sure about the safety , logistics & anything. But it should not be the reason of NO TRAVELLING. Because everything cannot be controlled.

Women, If you want to travel make it happen. Save money, convince your guardians & TRAVEL. I know and totally understand that not everyone has a privileged to be around friendly parents.And it is not a bad thing at all.But I have seen women arguing with parents about “life partner” and risking everything who usually say “yar ammi abu nahi ijazat denge” (My parents won’t allow me) when offered to come along for a vacation. So it comes down to your choices only.

They say to me , Oh you are so lucky because you are allowed to do ALMOST everything you want in your life. Guys, I have/had typical parents, too. Just trying to share that how did I make it happen for myself.

My tricks ?

I tricked my parents into believing that I am such a brainy girl who can handle everything (which is sort of true but they need to know that, too). I discussed weird situations and suggest the solution to impress them. lol (I am clever, I know). I used to argue too much, healthy of course but If things get out of control, I never hesitate to apologize so they knew that they are important to me, not just traveling and other stuff.

Well, there is so much I did to gain that level of trust & also made sure that they are not worried. If you want more personal tips, let me know I can share all my positive-evil-ideas with you, happily. The key was to “SHARE” my thoughts & wishes with them, which helped me a lot.

The least you can do, if you can not manage to travel than appreciate other women and give them a thumbs up. Don’t make them feel like odd one out with your nasty comments because you cannot do it. Be good!

Perspective # 2

The second perspective is, parents who want their daughters to settle abroad and surprisingly they feel so happy and proud about it but never allow them to travel even with childhood friends. The only travel they are allowed to make is their “HONEYMOON” which does not even fall into “traveling” category, at least for me. LOL . Do they even realize how difficult it is to survive in a different country while living alone and running a family? Not-so-easy at all!

I am not saying that their concerns are pointless. They should be concerned definitely but not be an obstacle, instead, they should be more helpful to solve them. I feel blessed to had a mother like one of its own unique and best kind ( may her soul rest in peace), not to forget my ever supporting dad (may he live longer).

I am not saying that their concerns are pointless. They should be concerned definitely but not be an obstacle, instead, they should be more helpful to solve them. I feel blessed to had a mother like one of its own unique and best kind ( may her soul rest in peace), not to forget my ever supporting dad (may he live longer).

Perspective # 0

The most not-so-important perspective, our society, what your phupho (Aunt) or her daughter or your best friend or colleague thinks about you because you travel with men(known or unknown) or without your family. DOES IT EVEN MATTER ? NOOPEE.

Travelling does something to you!!

Travelling is such a sensational & soothing experience (technically, it’s very rough & tough mostly) which change you from the core. You learn a lot including about yourself, too. Travelling elevates your perspective about everything. Travelling is not only about seeing places or a lot of greenery and a calm place away from the city and share pictures on social media, it is so much more than this which is unexplainable, you can feel it only. I wish everyone feel it at least once in a life time.

What I Believe

Exploration is really the essence of the human spirit. Frank Borman

P.S : I am a new blogger, totally up for suggestions. I really really want to know everyone’s views, too. I hope that you feel motivated someday and live your life. Happy Reading & Travelling !